Since I've been mentioned indirectly a few times and directly several times during this, I think it's best that I put in my thoughts as well. I would go to you privately, but it looks like there's an addendum against that. I'm not trying to gang up on you or anything like that, but I would like to make a few things clear.
I felt very uncomfortable during your conflict between the obvious other player and yourself. I already expressed that it felt like you were trying to get me to go to her on your behalf and I genuinely appreciate you letting up on the subject when I told you it made me feel uncomfortable. That said, I feel like there's still some rivalry there between the two of you and I think we should keep the OOC and IC line firmly in place in the future. It's sad when people don't get along, but we can't expect someone else's characters to behave in ways the player views as OOC.
My second point is that it feels awkward to me OOCly when you put so much of Conan's mental health on Sherlock's shoulders. It makes me feel like I must conform to certain patterns when we thread otherwise Conan will break irreparably if I don't. I can't be held responsible for your character. That's your job as a roleplayer.
Finally, I would appreciate it if we no longer have any contact between Vermouth and Sherlock. The two IC inbox threads we've had felt like you were trying to circumnavigate CR to go a specific direction by using your secondary character as a mouthpiece. I should have brought this up after the first thread, but I decided not to since I assumed it was a one time thing.
I'm very sorry things built up this far and turned out this way. I hope that Conan finds a more pleasant existence in the box after his canon reset.
I apologise in advance if this doesn't make any sense in the morning because it's 5AM and I'm literally falling asleep in my chair but I wanted to respond to this before sleep.
You're not the one that should be sorry, I am. You got wrapped up in all this mess and probably the one the most affected by it and I shouldn't have let it get this bad. I've been thinking a lot the past few days about how everything's played out and honestly I don't blame you a bit for being uncomfortable. I'm really sorry I didn't realise how uncomfortable it was making you and I should have. You're absolutely right, it was my job to be responsible for the mental health of my characters not you I should have never put you in that position and I won't do it again.
I don't want to not get along with anyone and if it's uncomfortable for me, I can't even imagine how uncomfortable it is for you. I really do consider and enjoy talking to you as friend so the last thing I wanted was to make you or anyone else feel uncomfortable.
I'd like to clarify that the incident with the mentioned other player isn't the stem of the issue. Conan's reliance on Sherlock and a handful of other characters has been an ongoing thing. The straw that broke the camel's back for me was when you mentioned both in IM and on plurk that the actions taken by me and two other players rendered Conan 'unplayable' for you. It was inappropriate and a better course of action would have been to drop the character or implement your canon reset without making a production of putting a name tag to the reason.
If you truly understand what went wrong and you'll make an effort not to repeat it, then that's good news all around. I would like to make one request regarding any potential plotting/cr for the future. I only need to be pinged once for relevant threads. If I choose not to tag into something for an IC or OOC reason, I reserve the right to make that decision without opening myself up to negotiation.
I'm not going to ask you to avoid talking to me on plurks and I won't refuse to thread with you in general. I don't hate you or harbour you any ill will. Everything's just worked up to a boiling point and I think it might be healthiest for everyone if we take a step back and let things heal naturally.
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I felt very uncomfortable during your conflict between the obvious other player and yourself. I already expressed that it felt like you were trying to get me to go to her on your behalf and I genuinely appreciate you letting up on the subject when I told you it made me feel uncomfortable. That said, I feel like there's still some rivalry there between the two of you and I think we should keep the OOC and IC line firmly in place in the future. It's sad when people don't get along, but we can't expect someone else's characters to behave in ways the player views as OOC.
My second point is that it feels awkward to me OOCly when you put so much of Conan's mental health on Sherlock's shoulders. It makes me feel like I must conform to certain patterns when we thread otherwise Conan will break irreparably if I don't. I can't be held responsible for your character. That's your job as a roleplayer.
Finally, I would appreciate it if we no longer have any contact between Vermouth and Sherlock. The two IC inbox threads we've had felt like you were trying to circumnavigate CR to go a specific direction by using your secondary character as a mouthpiece. I should have brought this up after the first thread, but I decided not to since I assumed it was a one time thing.
I'm very sorry things built up this far and turned out this way. I hope that Conan finds a more pleasant existence in the box after his canon reset.
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You're not the one that should be sorry, I am. You got wrapped up in all this mess and probably the one the most affected by it and I shouldn't have let it get this bad. I've been thinking a lot the past few days about how everything's played out and honestly I don't blame you a bit for being uncomfortable. I'm really sorry I didn't realise how uncomfortable it was making you and I should have. You're absolutely right, it was my job to be responsible for the mental health of my characters not you I should have never put you in that position and I won't do it again.
I don't want to not get along with anyone and if it's uncomfortable for me, I can't even imagine how uncomfortable it is for you. I really do consider and enjoy talking to you as friend so the last thing I wanted was to make you or anyone else feel uncomfortable.
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I'd like to clarify that the incident with the mentioned other player isn't the stem of the issue. Conan's reliance on Sherlock and a handful of other characters has been an ongoing thing. The straw that broke the camel's back for me was when you mentioned both in IM and on plurk that the actions taken by me and two other players rendered Conan 'unplayable' for you. It was inappropriate and a better course of action would have been to drop the character or implement your canon reset without making a production of putting a name tag to the reason.
If you truly understand what went wrong and you'll make an effort not to repeat it, then that's good news all around. I would like to make one request regarding any potential plotting/cr for the future. I only need to be pinged once for relevant threads. If I choose not to tag into something for an IC or OOC reason, I reserve the right to make that decision without opening myself up to negotiation.
I'm not going to ask you to avoid talking to me on plurks and I won't refuse to thread with you in general. I don't hate you or harbour you any ill will. Everything's just worked up to a boiling point and I think it might be healthiest for everyone if we take a step back and let things heal naturally.